Saturday, November 2, 2013

How to differentiate yourself

Its very hard to do that effectively and on a sustainable basis. 

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Automation

How do i automate every aspect of my life?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

How to overcome stupidity

Stupidity is defined by me as irrational response to a life situation. The reasons for stupidity are many- personal beliefs, reacting to and being governed by primitive emotional state of mind, and lack of thinking.

Some ways to reduce stupidity are as follows:
1. Have a belief system - moral spiritual financial personal relational. This will help you with a guiding principle of how to react to situations that you have not encountered before and the decision you make will be in line with overall belief system.

2. Do not do not react emotionally and do not let primitive thinking take over your thought process. Most decisions in today's life so not require immediate response and you have the time to apply critical reasoning to any decision. 

3. Create an error log - despite all the good advise in points 1 and 2 above, we will still display stupidity - the best way to reduce future incidents of stupidity is to acknowledge and then log the events where you showed stupidity. Repeat mistakes can be reduced if there is a feedback mechanism.

4. Listen to friends and family - even enemies if necessary. Getting a different perspective is essential in the decision making process.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

You will be successful if you need success as bad as you want to breadth. 

I have experienced this myself when I was about to lose my job and my survival depended on my skills to network and get an offer from another employer successfully.

I really had a deadline for survival and i accomplished amazing results because i was fighting to breadth. It brought unparallel clarify and purpose to my efforts.

also in the process i realized the importance of friends, supporters and people in general.

So my suggestion is that if you have a goal in life that is really important to you - make it so important as if your life depends on it. Whether you succeed or not may not be fully in your control but the focus and clarity that you will feel will be unmatched to any life experience.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Inspiration

Watched some really inspiring videos online all of which said - believe in your self.  Against all odds you will succeed if you believe in yourself 

Sunday, August 4, 2013

take chances - be ready to fail

  don't stop yourself from success

 its OK to be not liked if you can get things done

the world is not just - learn from people who have no skill and are still successful

we  live in a hierarchical world and still we do not like it

are you willing to make the trade offs to gain power 

spend time to develop strategic relationships

work very hard to be successful

do you want to make sacrifices?

you may have to deal with people whom you really do not like

develop a lot of weak ties

ask for what you want -

  Daniel Amen

  David Allen

flow book

  crucial conversations

  its all about seducing other people - take them to a heightened state of reality - away from the normal and boring. that is the way to seduce a person. be a little bit grander than the rest

be indifferent - its just a game!

new unique places people perspectives will help you develop faster than repeating the same old process.

There are so many ways to achieve flow - through your body and through your mind

Survival by itself can be a goal. surviving and thriving in a political environment by itself is a goal

use game theory in life - you can use almost anything to solve a previously unknown problem.

communication is all out who much the other person understands us - the onus of making the other person understand our message is on us not on the other person

life by itself is meaningless but we can add meaning to it.
religion is good and useful   it binds people

 

flow activities usually have the following three characteristics:

The objective is clear

there is a feedback loop

distinction between success and failure is clear

You can create your own social group - hierarchies, power structures, social circles - a lot of that can be done by 

most things are not as valuable as they first appear to be - give it some time to get to the bottom

automation is great! 

take ownership for your life and all its decisions

invent things and build things - there is a lot more fun in doing that

not everybody will like you - you can do anything but it wont work some times. 

your ego and self pride have no value

 

Never tell anyone the real reason you did something unless it is useful to do so

The best way to handle people is to tell them what they want to hear

Most people are not basically good and kind

It is safest to assume that all people have a vicious streak and it will come out when they are given a chance.

you are free to lie to someone else. if someone lies to you and you detect it do not give them another chance at all

When you ask someone to do something for you, it is worse to give the real reasons for wanting it rather than giving reasons which carry more weight.

  It is wise to flatter important people.

P.T. Barnum was right when he said that there’s a sucker born every minute.

It is hard to get ahead without cutting corners here and there.

Success is based on survival of the fittest; I am not concerned about the losers.

For me, what's right is whatever I can get away with.

I am able to pursue one goal for a long time.

People who are stupid enough to get ripped off usually deserve it.

 

https://personality-testing.info/tests/LSRP.php

 

  the flexible and adaptable will survive   that is the most important human trait necessary to survival

Become a Friendlier Person 

  • Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain
  • Give honest, sincere appreciation
  • Become genuinely interested in other people
  • Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
  • Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely 

Win People to Your Way of Thinking 

  • The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
  • Show respect for the other person’s opinion; never say, "You’re wrong."
  • If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
  • Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
  • Appeal to the nobler motives 

Be a Leader 

  • Begin with praise and honest appreciation
  • Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
  • Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
  • Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement; be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
  • Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
source: http://www.dalecarnegie.com/careers/inside_dale_carnegie/principles/


http://cgt411.tech.purdue.edu/covey/48_laws_of_power.htm

The 48 Laws of Power

by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers
Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior.  In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity.  Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy.  They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove.  In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies.  If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
 Law 3
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions.  If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense.  Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.
 Law 4
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control.  Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike.  Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.  The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
 Law 5
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power.  Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides.  Make your reputation unassailable.  Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen.  Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations.  Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.
 Law 6
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing.  Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion.  Stand out.  Be conspicuous, at all cost.  Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.
  Law 7
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause.  Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed.  In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered.  Never do yourself what others can do for you.
 Law 8
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control.  It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process.  Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack.  You hold the cards.
 Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory:  The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion.  It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word.  Demonstrate, do not explicate.
 Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease.  You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster.  The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you.  Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted.  The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have.  Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear.  Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.
 Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones.  Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people.  Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will.  A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.
 Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds.  He will find a way to ignore you.  Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion.  He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.
 Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical.  Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead.  Better still: Play the spy yourself.  In polite social encounters, learn to probe.  Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions.  There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.
 Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely.  (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.)  If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.  More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation:  The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge.  Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.
 Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down:  The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear.  If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired.  You must learn when to leave.  Create value through scarcity.
 Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions.  Your predictability gives them a sense of control.  Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable.  Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves.  Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.
 Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves.  A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target.  Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle.  You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.
 Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way.  Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge.  They are wolves in lambs’ clothing.  Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.
 Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides.  Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself.  By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.
 Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons.  The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are.  Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.
 Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead.  Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane.  Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first.  By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him.  Make surrender a tool of power.
 Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point.  You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time.  When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.
 Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity.  He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner.  Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.
 Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you.  Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience.  Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you.  Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.
 Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds.  Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.
Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something.  Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow.  Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking.  Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf.  In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.
 Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it.  Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution.  Timidity is dangerous:  Better to enter with boldness.  Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity.  Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.
 Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything.  Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others.  By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop.  Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.
 Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease.  All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed.  When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more.  Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions.  Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.
 Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice:  Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets.  Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose.  Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose.  Put them on the horns of a dilemma:  They are gored wherever they turn.
 Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant.  Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment.  Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert:  Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
 Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall.  That weakness is usual y an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure.  Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.
  Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion:  Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you.  For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others.  By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.
 Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time.  Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually.  Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power.  Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.
 Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have:  Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility.  The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it.  It is sometimes best to leave things alone.  If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it.  The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem. 
Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them.  Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence.  Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.
Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them.  They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior.  It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.
Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive.  You must always stay calm and objective.  But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage.  Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.
Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation.  What has worth is worth paying for.  By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit.  It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence.  Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after.  If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them.  Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making:  Establish your own name and identity by changing course.  Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.
Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill.  If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence.  Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable.  Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them.  Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.
Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you.  You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction.  A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn.  And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses.  Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear.  Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.
Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy.  The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact.  By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson.  Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.
Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit.  Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt.  If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things.  If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses.  Envy creates silent enemies.  It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable.  Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril.  In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat.  Do not allow success to go to your head.  There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning.  Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.
Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack.  Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move.  Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed.  The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order.  Everything changes.
 
 
 
 
 


life lessons based on actual life incidents - not made up!

Success comes to those who work hard at it as opposed to those who just dream about it. The reason for that is most things in life are difficult to achieve and take a lot of determination, grit, pain, time, and personal push and motivation to achieve.

Being even a little bit better than your competition goes a long way.

in life results are asymmetric that is you could get screwed even if you are a little bit worse than the next and you could become the other guy's boss if you are even slightly better than the other guy.

Normal guys get normal results. You will setup yourself to achieve nothing in life if you set low goals. But remember that personal growth is a very slow ardorours and deliberate process and you are only as good as your abilities but what is the hard in discovering your limits and boundaries.

Other humans are complex and usually smarter than you think but they are looking for the some things that you are. Love attention validation security.

Other humans are simply objects to manipulate to get to where you want to get in life. If you live like this life will be fine but you may still be lonely in the end. True love is a concept and you may feel it a few times in life but perhaps with different people.

Girls are very different than men!  as different as another species.

You cannot give up on what you want in life even if everybody including yourself says its not possible.

Life is really short. i will regret what i did not do versus what i did. what is there to be afraid of really? unless its a life threatening situation, any other situation should be fine to take risks whether its career risk, asking a girl out, asking for a promotion or opportunity, or pushing your self for greatness.

what worse could happen than being a person who tried and failed than a person who never tried at all.

Life deals you only one hand and you have to make the best of that hand. there is no rematch.

life is not fair - deal with it. i wish it was fair but it is not. bad things happen  to good people.

always try to think how are you adding value? are you providing unique value?  why would a person give you money if you are not providing something of value.

In the same way always think what value are you getting if you are paying for anything?

never sign anything without thinking it through

computers will eventually replace humans for all kind of work and that change is taking place at an accelerated pace

to really excel at something you have to put all your energies heart into it. cannot be an expert with just surface knowledge

confidence is paramount that is respected by men and women alike

women are really clueless in many ways - they love a man who has a plan someone who can lead and has social proof and the resources to provide for her and her offsprings

women also like a man with good physic since it a sign of strength and health and the ability to provide for herself and her offsprings

everybody is a competitor for resources and mates - but sometimes we need to make co operations and bow to a social hierarchy to survive and further our cause

people will not do what you want from them unless their purpose is served in some way

fear and incentives work well for most people

find out a person's weakness and use it to your advantage

stay away from the unhappy and unlucky - they will bring you down with their miseries and life issues and take you to a place where you think of negatives things yourself

4 basic laws for my life:

1. eat like a caveman
2. get strong life a warrior
3. act like a courtier
4. get specialized in something of value


i feel that the truth is that we have not changed much for several centuries and the recent lifestyle changes by humans have clouded our judgement. our bodies are really not designed for modern day foods. also men and women still value physical strength over several other factors.

also the human civilization is built on a social hierarchy and you need to pay the game and play to succeed in the system   it has not really changed since the tribal ages or the courts of Akbar, Tudors etc

in each human civilization developing a specialization is highly regarded for a man. for example Arjuna was a master archer, men have been known to be great sharp shooters

what ever the specialization each generation has something that is highly valued and becoming a master at that would lead to a lot of prestige and value

work like you dont care about the money - with full passion despite rejection fear criticism and ass holes   with time your work will shine or else someone else would know about it as well

always bring attention to yourself - take credit for other people's work and dump blame on other people

dont pass judgements - ask people a lot of questions

dont be afraid of rejection - its really a numbers game in life

create a feedback look for everything

you dont have to think on your feet for everything - a lot of preparation can be done in advance

never thing of yourself as inferior to anyone else and never thing that you cannot make it

anything that is measured and actions are taken to improve it will improve!  be it unmeasurable things such as your mood

we are all creatures of habit - but habits can be changed too either by internal motivation or my external circumstances

Machiavelli

quality always bets quantity but it make take 10 times the effort to improve quality
provide novelty to people and they will follow you

IQ is explained by hereditary - 

learn the skill of reading body language and control your body language or manipulate to change your body language

the placebo effect is for real!

a very difficult task for me is to explain complex information to everyday people

speed and aggression is good - use it to your advantage
 sharpness of mind is good too 

listen to good music and watch comedies - stay away from serious and disturbing things including news